Patiently waiting for a moment to BLOG....
February is a BUSY month for my household. It is the first of our 3 month cycle with my bonus kids. There's lots of movement and adjustments to make... a month of getting back into the swing of things, having now 7 kids in 6 different schools with different schedules keeps my mind moving even in the rare moments when my body is not. So, please forgive me. I've been a bad blogger this month.
BUT, I do have a few things to cover in this blog post.
Though I've been busy, I've seen Black Panther TWICE so far, so let's discuss!
Let's just get Black Panther out of the way. A-MAZING!
This movie was MORE than an amazing opportunity to see a film that Ryan Coogler put together for us, FULL of people who look like us and our families, about an African King and STRONG African women... But it was a great Marvel Movie!!!!!! It also showed us what happens when the father is removed... no, murdered, and his son is left behind to figure out his manhood on his own. Killmonger had greatness in his DNA, he just decided to be a great murderer.
There's SOOOOO much more to say about this movie, but I don't want to ruin it if anyone hasn't seen it yet. But if you see me in the streets or want to email me and want to discuss it, LET'S! I'm here for it!
On to the next: I had a conversation with a dear friend of mine. What it came down to was desperation (enter SIGH here). We all have those friends we can talk to about ANYTHING, right? Well, this was one of those conversations where we discussed common knowledge that we had about a woman who knew her man cheated on her multiple times and she did not care, as she was desperate for companionship. We further discussed the why the woman allowed this, and also, why the man kept going back to this woman. During this discussion the realization hit me that this scenario is probably all too familiar. For the man, we discussed that he knew she wasn't going anywhere so when he was fed up with dealing with her, he could walk away knowing that he could come back around during cuddle season and slide into tax season, no problem. He could always come back when it was convenient. For the woman, it all came down to a combination of low self esteem and desperation.
This is not a friend of ours, so all we can do is pray at a distance (not a problem, I pray for strangers in line at the grocery store) but if you were watching your friend, your mother, your daughter live this cycle, what if anything could you do????????? Somebody has got to love these people...
AND lastly...
I have been watching a new show, every Sunday on TLC called "Seeking Sister Wife..."
and I love it! There's 3 polygamous families, 2 of them have one husband and multiple wives, while the 3rd couple is seeking a new sister wife as a previous one didn't work out. I understand the history of it and get the concept of more hands on deck when it comes to having a big family BUT I don't subscribe to sharing my husband, but that's just me: literally. I made that statement to a friend who effortlessly explained that to her it wasn't like sharing him at all. I am now intrigued to understand it from her perspective because... maybe I'm nosey, lol. But I like to think that I just like to get an understanding.
I am inquisitive about a lot of things and I don't believe in attempting to force people to live the way I feel is right. I believe that, as a Christian, my primary job is to love people right where they are, giving the light that shines in me a chance to bring them to a place where they desire to encounter with the God that I know and love. At that point God has the opportunity to change/transform them the way He sees fit. I also believe that when you understand some one's beliefs it makes it easier to be accepting of them and to love them, even if you disagree. So, as I was watching, it saddened me to see that some of the families live in fear of having their families torn apart and the parents sent to jail while the children are separated and sent to foster homes due to the laws where they live. The kids all seem extemely happy and loved, so the idea of them being snatched away because their parents have decided they should have more parents and more love/attention make me sad.
Yes, that's a black couple on the pic... and yes, they're initially why I watched. I've watched the original "Sister Wives" with Cody before, but in my mind, I somehow decided that WE didn't deal in plural families. I was wrong. Some of us do... forgive my ignorance.
One question: Where is the show with the plural families where one wife has multiple husbands?????
These were just some of my ramblings from the month February, since one month into blogging I took a month long break to snatch my life together. Share your thoughts! Post in the comments OR email me at Paula@ P-Rae.com
BUT, I do have a few things to cover in this blog post.
Though I've been busy, I've seen Black Panther TWICE so far, so let's discuss!
Let's just get Black Panther out of the way. A-MAZING!
This movie was MORE than an amazing opportunity to see a film that Ryan Coogler put together for us, FULL of people who look like us and our families, about an African King and STRONG African women... But it was a great Marvel Movie!!!!!! It also showed us what happens when the father is removed... no, murdered, and his son is left behind to figure out his manhood on his own. Killmonger had greatness in his DNA, he just decided to be a great murderer.
There's SOOOOO much more to say about this movie, but I don't want to ruin it if anyone hasn't seen it yet. But if you see me in the streets or want to email me and want to discuss it, LET'S! I'm here for it!
On to the next: I had a conversation with a dear friend of mine. What it came down to was desperation (enter SIGH here). We all have those friends we can talk to about ANYTHING, right? Well, this was one of those conversations where we discussed common knowledge that we had about a woman who knew her man cheated on her multiple times and she did not care, as she was desperate for companionship. We further discussed the why the woman allowed this, and also, why the man kept going back to this woman. During this discussion the realization hit me that this scenario is probably all too familiar. For the man, we discussed that he knew she wasn't going anywhere so when he was fed up with dealing with her, he could walk away knowing that he could come back around during cuddle season and slide into tax season, no problem. He could always come back when it was convenient. For the woman, it all came down to a combination of low self esteem and desperation.
This is not a friend of ours, so all we can do is pray at a distance (not a problem, I pray for strangers in line at the grocery store) but if you were watching your friend, your mother, your daughter live this cycle, what if anything could you do????????? Somebody has got to love these people...
AND lastly...
I have been watching a new show, every Sunday on TLC called "Seeking Sister Wife..."
and I love it! There's 3 polygamous families, 2 of them have one husband and multiple wives, while the 3rd couple is seeking a new sister wife as a previous one didn't work out. I understand the history of it and get the concept of more hands on deck when it comes to having a big family BUT I don't subscribe to sharing my husband, but that's just me: literally. I made that statement to a friend who effortlessly explained that to her it wasn't like sharing him at all. I am now intrigued to understand it from her perspective because... maybe I'm nosey, lol. But I like to think that I just like to get an understanding.
I am inquisitive about a lot of things and I don't believe in attempting to force people to live the way I feel is right. I believe that, as a Christian, my primary job is to love people right where they are, giving the light that shines in me a chance to bring them to a place where they desire to encounter with the God that I know and love. At that point God has the opportunity to change/transform them the way He sees fit. I also believe that when you understand some one's beliefs it makes it easier to be accepting of them and to love them, even if you disagree. So, as I was watching, it saddened me to see that some of the families live in fear of having their families torn apart and the parents sent to jail while the children are separated and sent to foster homes due to the laws where they live. The kids all seem extemely happy and loved, so the idea of them being snatched away because their parents have decided they should have more parents and more love/attention make me sad.
Yes, that's a black couple on the pic... and yes, they're initially why I watched. I've watched the original "Sister Wives" with Cody before, but in my mind, I somehow decided that WE didn't deal in plural families. I was wrong. Some of us do... forgive my ignorance.
One question: Where is the show with the plural families where one wife has multiple husbands?????
These were just some of my ramblings from the month February, since one month into blogging I took a month long break to snatch my life together. Share your thoughts! Post in the comments OR email me at Paula@ P-Rae.com
